“By Request” Is Not That Deep: Why You Should Stop Hesitating and Just Book the Date

The frustration that spawned this post

Let’s address the elephant in the inbox: I feel like “By Request” is beating y’all like a vintage rug on laundry day. So let me make this crystal clear—because the goal is to get you to the fun part, which is actually meeting me. In person. Face to beautiful face.

What Does “By Request” Even Mean?

Simply put: it means that I’m open to seeing you outside of my listed tour cities—if you ask.

Yes. That’s it. That’s the tweet.

A wise auntie once said, “A closed mouth doesn’t get fed,” and she wasn’t wrong. This concept is echoed across cultures and clichés:

• The squeaky wheel gets the oil.

• The early bird gets the worm.

• Shoot your shot, or forever wonder what could’ve been.

If you’re within a two-hour driving radius of Newark, NJ, I’m talking to you. You are not “too far.” You're not a burden. You’re just hesitating for no good reason—except maybe overthinking, which I hear is a national pastime now.

Let me be clear: the only city that’s excluded from this whole "I'll drive to you" thing is New York City—because driving there is what nightmares are made of. I'll take the train or black car into Manhattan like a civilized person, thank you very much.

“But Olivia, I Don’t Want You Going Out of Your Way…”

Sir. Let me stop you right there.

I’ve lived in Phoenix, where the nearest grocery store is basically in another time zone. I’ve driven through Houston, where the highways are wider than some small countries. And Atlanta? That city is 90 minutes away from itself. A drive to Wayne, NJ or Morristown or wherever you’re hiding is nothing but a warm-up.

You’re not asking me to chisel my way through the Alps. You’re asking me to hop in my car and hit a few exits. I promise you—I’ve done more for less.

America’s favorite extreme sport is long-distance driving, and baby, I’ve got the gold medal. Plus, New Jersey is still very car-centric, even if NJ Transit tries its best. So don’t let guilt or logistics stop you from a lovely time with a lovely woman. You. Are. Not. A. Nuisance.

How to Submit a “By Request” Booking

Step 1: Stop playing yourself.

Step 2: Fill out the booking form. Yes, the whole thing. No skipping.

Step 3: Send the $150 deposit to lock it in. No deposit, no date.

Step 4: Relax. Anticipate. Enjoy the grown-up version of Christmas Eve.

That’s it. No smoke signals. No scavenger hunts. Just a little confidence and a desire for delight.

So if you’ve been sitting there wondering if you’re “too far,” let me answer that for you: you’re not. Submit the request, shoot your shot, and let’s make some magic—on purpose.

See you soon!